Here is another article about a pattern from the Pattern System^SM. It tells the story of someone with the pattern and how they worked it through and developed the Self-Interst Capacity.

The Caretaking Pattern

If you have the Caretaking Pattern, you are caring and compassionate toward others, but often at the expense of your own needs or desires. If you have this pattern strongly, you will find yourself literally taking care of others, financially, logistically, and emotionally. At some level, though, your caring comes with some strings attached. You have a deep desire to be appreciated for all that you give to others, rather than giving without any thought of attention being returned. You may be aware of hoping that people will care more for you and give you their time and attention in return for your efforts. Read the rest of this entry »