Beyond Eating Issues Class:
Using IFS for Self-Nurturing and Learning to Love Ourselves
Bonnie Weiss LCSW
Those of us with food-related, body image, and assertion problems often have deep conflicts about nurturing ourselves and finding our rightful place in the world. We are plagued by conflicting inner parts of ourselves that seem to want opposing things. These parts push and pull at us: “Be thin!” “Eat what you want!” “Don’t make waves!” “You deserve more!,” until we fog ourselves to sleep out of confusion, exhaustion, and fear.
We think we need to tame the Cookie Monster, but the issue at hand is finding a place of openness and curiosity and creating a venue where these opposing voices can be identified and explored. Each voice represents a part of us that is trying to protect or take care of us in some way. They each have their own history and beliefs that can be understood and compassionately attended to.
There are three basic polarities that effect one’s relationship to self nurturing:
- The Pleasure polarity between the Inner Controller and the Indulger
- The Support polarity between the Needy part and the Need Denier
- The Power polarity between the People Please and the Outer Controller
The personal work on this issue is twofold. Firstly to understand the protective dynamics of dominant parts and to find a place of curiosity to explore what more vulnerable parts are being protected. Then healing can be focused on the more vulnerable, exiled parts.
 Secondly, there are specific capacities that can be developed that will ease each of these polarities.
Phone classes will focus on the exploring these dynamic interactions and on capacity development.
Separate classes are offered for those with IFS experience and for those new to the IFS model.
The format allows for individual work with me, opportunities to work in dyads with each other, large group exercises, and the mining of group wisdom. The goal is to create a supportive environment for understanding and reweaving your inner landscape.
See the schedule for upcoming classes.
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Creating Wholeness: Reweaving Your Inner Landscape
